Biologists and doctors claim that a human being is made up of 80% of water. But, let's turn this phrase around a bit and assume that 100% of a human being is made up of emotions. This is a completely different field of research, but it is no less important than the physiological aspects. Besides, our physical condition and well-being depends to a greater extent on the emotional background.
What emotions and feelings are we subject to?
Emotions and feelings can be ranked into 5 main types. These are:
- Joyful;
- Angry;
- Sad;
- Fearful;
- Shameful.
Joyful emotions can include pride, delight, gratitude, love, and other positive feelings.
To evil - irritation, envy, jealousy, rage and other anger-fueling emotions.
Sadness is the embodiment of longing, pity, or regret. Fear is fright, panic, terror. And shame with all manifestations of embarrassment, guilt or embarrassment.
Why do you need self-control?
First of all, in order not to get sick, secondly, in order to live in peace with ourselves. Thirdly, for our loved ones, who react acutely to our mood swings. Strictly speaking, any emotion that goes beyond the baseline can lead to imbalance. And it, in turn, will affect all areas of life.
Don't think that you don't need to feel joy or sadness when you really have reason to. It is about controlling and working on yourself in terms of external manifestations.
In order to feel confident in all situations, it is recommended to master several techniques to manage and control your own emotional background.
How do you learn to contain your emotions?
Nervous in front of public speaking? Are you frightened? First of all, it is necessary to realize the fact that a person is responsible for his or her own reactions. Everyone has feelings, and it is everyone's choice how to deal with them: to contain them internally or to relay them to others.
The common form of blaming others for your condition is a dead end. You need to solve the problem within yourself, accept the fact of an external stimulus and understand why and how it affects you. After everything is laid out, you can look for a way out of the situation.
How do you control anger?
Many of us are unfortunately prone to angry outbursts. Irritation and anger can sometimes be triggered by a random person, family member or coworker. How to be? After offending someone, on the soul unpleasantly "scraping cats". But despite this, the thought arises that the fault is not mine anyway.
In fact, we are simply not ready to take responsibility for a bad deed. If you are accidentally hit by a passerby and you spill coffee on yourself, you should not think that this is a universal catastrophe and that a stranger deliberately made you feel bad. You will save yourself time and nerves if you accept the unpleasant situation and begin to find ways to solve the problem that has already occurred.
If it is not possible to immediately copulate with negativity, despite understanding the emotional outburst, count to 10 and start breathing exercises.
How to deal with emotions with breathing practices
If you are an overly emotional person, we recommend paying attention to breathing practices. There are quite a few different breathing exercises aimed at restoring harmony and clearing the mind. The simplest is to take 10-15 deep inhalations and exhalations, which will help to calm the heart rhythm and put your thoughts in order.
In addition, belly breathing is popular. In addition to emotional relief, this exercise is useful for the gastrointestinal tract and the vascular system in general. To perform the exercise, you need to take a comfortable lying or sitting position and breathe deeply using the abdominal muscles.
For advanced health and Ayurveda practitioners, the practice of Pranayama is familiar. It is a technique for managing life energy in general. The correlation of emotional and physical embodiment of a person.
Breathing practices are one of the modes of self-development. With these, you learn to relax and focus on your breathing.
How to keep emotions in check in public
There is a good saying - "We see the speck in the other's eye, but we don't see the log in our own". This expression fits perfectly with the case of controlling anger or other emotions. From the outside you can better see mistakes, blunders, and successes, among other things. Including a detached observer is a very useful skill and technique for controlling excessive emotions.
Try to trace the critical moment when fun or anger strongly prevails over other emotions and look at yourself from the outside. Imagine that it is not you, but a stranger and analyze his behavior without knowledge of the internal state and reasons. At a minimum it will become clear how you look in the eyes of outsiders. This is often sobering and allows you to focus on control.
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Create cases: what if?
Sometimes, deepening into negative or even positive emotions, we stop paying attention to the environment. Anger and aggression at yourself or at a foreign situation is reflected on people with whom you are near. And, not knowing about your inner feelings, a person subconsciously begins to think that he offended you. Or on the contrary, will accumulate negativity on you. Try to distract yourself and play a game with yourself: what if? Identify the problem. Think of a solution. Take action.
Case #1. What if your coworker comes to work angry? What will you think? That he's mad at you? That you hurt him in some way? Solve this case and move on. Make it clear that you have a non-work related problem and need a little break. I think your coworkers will understand and go along with it.
Case #2.. What if I get annoyed with my partner/wife/husband because of bad habits? How do you let him/her know that you are uncomfortable? Choose the most appropriate treatment, prepare your options and take action. It will be easier to do this in a calm environment. Don't wait for the next outburst of emotion, choose a quiet time and talk. Postpone the clarification of relations until the moment when both of you are ready for a dialog.
Learn to switch
How to learn to keep your cool, When previous techniques don't work? Try to shift your attention and not aggravate the development of an emotional outburst. When you realize that you can't hold back, choose another point of focus.
You can prepare yourself a blank for resetting. It can be a pleasant memory, a work situation that needs to be solved, a field of interest, a hobby, and so on. Something that will positively unload your brain and stop the emotional crisis.
Meditation
All of the above methods address the issue of emotion management only partially. In the moment or in preventive measures. If you want to change your approach to certain life situations fundamentally or find the root sources of the problems that bother you, turn to meditative practices. You can learn to focus your attention on your inner state, relax and rest more productively.
Conclusion
All techniques and effective mechanisms will not work without a positive attitude and faith in one's own strength. The main thing is to find the reasons for the imbalance of the output of emotions in yourself, accept them and begin to work with the help of different methods. It is worthwhile to enlist the support of loved ones and make a written work plan for yourself. Visualization of the process will bear fruit faster and more effectively.
Perceive the world around you in a less hostile way, and see your mood and life change for the better!
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