More and more often there is a tendency that women, not men, become the breadwinners in the family. This is fundamentally wrong, because since the Middle Ages the strong half of mankind has been providing for the family, and the beautiful half of mankind has been taking care of the comfort of the house. Yes, there are exceptions when girls can really earn more than their boyfriends or husbands, which is due to their personal traits or mindset. But still, if you do not belong to this small percentage of the population and do not want to provide for the family yourself, then we will provide some tips on how to make your husband work and earn money!
The key to success is finding the right cause
The first thing you must do to get your man to find a job is to determine what the reason for his laziness or disinterest is.
The main factors that influence a husband's interest in work are considered to be:
- Parenting. Perhaps, even from a small age, your other half was too much pampered by parents and now, in adulthood, he is not used to work and earn. This is most likely the most problematic situation, because to make him bring money into the family, you will have to look for levers of control.
- Character trait. A large proportion of men themselves are idlers and lazy. It is not that they do not want to work, elementary things at home to do hard. In this case, as in the previous one, you will need to look for workarounds to re-education, which we will talk about below.
- Position specifics. Many guys at the start of their career may not be able to earn more. For example, the same military personnel or managers in large companies. At first, earnings can simply be minimal, but with a great prospect for the future. In this case, it is not necessary to force your husband to work even more or to work part-time, because his career may suffer greatly because of this.
- Loss of motivation due to increased expenses. If your man earns a good salary and there is not enough money for the family, check your income and expenses together. Perhaps the lion's share of money is spent on your cosmetics, clothes and entertainment. In this case, we do not advise you to make your husband work and earn even more, because there is a threat that he will simply lose interest in work. Analyze your monthly budget and make adjustments if you spend too much on yourself.
You can read the psychologist's advice on this subject in the video below:
How to proceed so that no harm is done?
There are simple ways to make a man find a job or earn much more. So, to your attention are those "tricks" that can solve the problem:
- Let your husband manage the family budget. If he has to pay for utilities, allocate money for food, education of the child and other expenses, perhaps he will feel the lack of income and think about how to work and earn more to support the family. I would like to add to this recommendation - show him, budgetingto get the financial management right.
- In no case, do not frown on his salary if he already works all day long. It's one thing if your husband is lazy and doesn't want to go to work at all. It's another thing when a man tries hard, but in this situation he can't get more money. At such times it is better not to force him to do something, but on the contrary, praise the man and wait for changes, again, if he is motivated and you feel that he himself is eager to increase his income.
- Stop showing that you can also work quite hard. Keep going to work, but don't take extra part-time jobs and don't take the opportunity to get additional income. If your lazy husband has such a specific character trait, there is no need to develop it by showing that the wife can be the breadwinner in the family.
- Dream together about something great. A dream in life is the best motivation, as not only psychology, but also real life stories confirm. If you will show your husband new opportunities that you can get by earning more, it will definitely give results. As an option - instead of forcing him to do something, start dreaming together about a vacation abroad, a new car, a dacha near the sea. Try to keep this dream always in sight. An effective method - the two of you draw the object of your motivation, for example, on a paperboard, and hang on the wall in the bedroom. So every day a man after a hard day will see for what he needs to work and earn more.
- Try to save money, but wisely. We've told you before, how to save money on food without harm. There are many methods on the internet that will allow you to spend your family budget wisely and save more. As an option - pitcher methodwhich is quite popular today.
- A man must acutely feel the lack of the right amount of money. Do not try to pinch yourself in everything to somehow get through to the next paycheck. Spend on everything necessary, and if at some point your husband does not see dinner in the fridge or can not allocate money to glue torn shoes in the rainy fall, it should change something in his mind.
- Talk. Have you tried to come to a dialog and understand why your husband does not want to work and earn money? Perhaps you don't know something, and your beloved, because of his character can't reveal himself. There should be understanding in the family and without it, in any case, you can not get your other half to find a new job or try to earn more at the old one.
Lastly, we advise you to watch another video:
Here are all the tips that will help you solve the problem with your husband. Also recommend to find on the Internet and read the book by Irina Korchagina "How to make a man earn money. 50 SIMPLE RULES". This book describes many more effective ways that we have not described in this article. If our recommendations help, please leave the story of your experience in the comments!
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